Sunday, December 28, 2008

Singers who can't sing...

O.k. So i read an article this morning about singers who can't sing, and I have to say, the guy who wrote it is a complete moron. He's write on target with a few, but saying that Mariah, Beyonce, or Christina cannot sing is just absurd! Even Celine Dion, who I am not a huge fan of, can sing, she just kind of add's an annoying spin on it. I did not go and read the entire list, but people that should top the list in my opinion are Hillary Duff, Miley Cyrus, Taylor Swift (even though I love her!) The Jonas Brothers, The Cheetah Girls, Raven Simon, Ashley Tisdale, Ashley Simpson, Shakira, The Pussycat Dolls, Big N Rich, obviously a bunch of rappers, but that's why they rap, not sing...and I'm not saying that some of people aren't great "artists" but they have a nice image, catchy music and then just slide by without really having much, if any vocal talent! I was just annoyed that certain people didn't make the list, and wanted to discuss it.

Now, maybe another day, I can add another whole list to this...actors/actresses who are famous but can't act their way out of a box...topping the list...Tori Spelling (although I do like her a bunch now since her reality show...she still can't act though) and Scarlett Johansen! Ugh, it get's me irritated just thinking about it! But that's another day!

Saturday, November 29, 2008

Selena's Owl has landed!

An owl has landed from Selena, and man did he have to be strong, b/c I got the mother load!

List of all items...
My box of my FAVORITE, Ferrero Rocher Chocolates
Knitpicks sz. 6 straights, they're so pretty!
a skein of tofutsies yarn
2 skeins of knitpicks yarn in house colors
Charmed knits book (soo awesome!)
A sweet little time with goodies in it
Tin goodies: goats-milk soap, lip balm, a mood ring, reusable shopping bag, a chocolate frog, beads for putting in my knitting or for stitch markers, and I want to say a candle. Best of all the lip balm and soap are organic!
An AWESOME felted project bag. It's absolutely gorgeous! I love it!
A pretty celestial print scarf
glow in the dark constellation stickers
a fun orange loofah dish sponge
a solid green tea lotion bar
and a sweet, little pack of super cute notecards, I think they are made of recycled paper!
Thank you so much Selena! I love everything!

It's over...

Wow...I can't believe how fast this term went at Hogwarts! It seems like I was just finally starting to settle in, and get comfortable and into a routine and now it's already over! I had so much fun though, and I'm hoping I will be back again for another term, again as a proud Gryffindor! Roar Roar Gryffindor!

Sunday, November 16, 2008

Final Quidditch Round!

1. Who was Tom Riddle Sr.'s girlfriend before Merope gave him the love potion?
b. Cecilia

2. What does Luna say floated into Harry's ear when he was in the train car that supposedly caused him to lose focus?
c. Wrackspurt

3. How much do the primary Apparition lessons cost?
d. 12 galleons

4. What is Professor Merrythought's first name?
b. Galatea

5. What Hogwarts club was Eileen Prince captain of?
b. Gobstones Club

6. Who is head of the Goblin Liaison office?
b. Dirk Cresswell

7. Mrs. Weasley offers Fleur a goblin-made tiara for the wedding with Bill. What family member is currently in possession of the tiara?
a. Aunt Muriel

8. How many points does Snape take from Gryffindor for Harry's late arrival and muggle attire?
b. 70

9. When Profressory Slughorn first meets Hermione, he asks her whether she is related to Hector Dagworth-Granger. What society did Dagworth-Granger found?
d. The Most Extraordinary Society of Potioneers

10. Which of these describes Golpalott's Third Law?
d. The antidote for a blended poison will be equal to more than the sum of the antidotes for each of the separate components

Monday, November 3, 2008

Not me Monday....

Joining in the fun from Susie's blog , which orginates at MckMama's blog, I am going to take part in "Not Me Monday."

I did not resort to just brushing and french braiding my hair before we went out to dinner last night with my in-laws even though I REALLY needed a shower.

I did not let the various children that were at my house all weekend (my own children, my sort of niece who is in my daycare, and my two nephews) jump on the beds in the daycare room whenever they wanted as long as they were careful just so I could get some stuff done.

I did not clean out three pumpkins with my husband at 11:00 at night on the 30th, only to actually carve one in time for Halloween, and I most certainly did not put all the pumpkins out on my porch, one of them only having one single triangle eye carved out of it!

I most certainly did not finish sewing my childrens Halloween costumes on Halloween night, only to have DD's be too small, and DS's have to big of a neck, which caused us to only be able to trick or treat for 1/2 an hour.

It definitely WAS NOT me who fell off the wagon and bought a gorgeous tie dye dress and matching t-shirt for my kids.

And, there's no way it could have been me who's been trying to make the same meal for dinner for a week now, but who's missing one ingredient so it still hasn't happened yet!

Sunday, November 2, 2008

Gryffindor Homework #4

Let's try this again, since I'm an idiot and posted it to the HSKS6 blog the first time! LOL!

Sorry this is a little late...I had every intention of getting it done in time, and then my niece decided to suprise us all and come 3 weeks early! (@ 37 weeks 1 day, by c-section.) So here's my slightly belated answers...

1. Name your favorite magical creature, and describe why it is your favorite. Phoenix...they are beautiful, my favorite colors, loyal, caring, and it's so uniques, beautiful, wonderful, and incredible how the start a new life cycle.

2. Tell us your favorite charm, spell or curse, and explain why you like it.'s great for when I don't feel like getting up, and I need a pen, drop my knitting needles or darning needle, want my soda, or want a snack! LOL!

3. Describe your favorite holiday family tradition - which holiday and what makes it special. Christmas...every year since I was born my mothers side of the family has a family christmas party, and we celebrate together. It used to always be on christmas eve, but that's changed now, but it's still just about a time of being together with family, and sharing good food, and fellowship. It's also tradition that we sing Christmas Carols as a family!

4. Name your favorite fiber-based (knitted, crocheted, or spun) finished object: Right now, I'd have to say the ripple eyelet baby hat that I made my brand new niece for my SIL's baby shower, you can see it on my rav's the first things I've done that was kinda lacy, and I really like how it turned out! =)

Monday, October 20, 2008

This weekend at Hogwarts...

This weekend at Hogwarts proved to be a VERY busy one! I took a few classes for extra credit, did some studying, some leisure reading, but mostly, I had a TON of Homework! I'm still trying to finish up some homework before my next class, and then I have to run off to the muggle post, and then off to coach muggle cheer practice! I really need to find a good charm for energy! LOL!

Saturday, October 18, 2008

I've been Tagged...

Better late them never right? I didn't add the link b/c I didn't have the address off hand, but if you want the link you can visit Susie's Blog oh and she's the person who tagged me so I killed two birds with one stone (eww) so to speak! LOL!

O.k. random facts...
1. I really want another baby
2. I did ballet for 15 years, and for a gradual less amount (does that even make sense?) Tap, Jazz, Lyrical, and Hip Hop...I also taught dance for a year.
3. I'm 15 lbs. from my goal weight, and for the first time in 3.5 years I weigh less than I did when I got pregnant with Coby.
4. I really truly believe my husband and I will celebrate our 75th wedding anniversary.
5. I run a home daycare which makes me absolutely insane...I love kids, but I think they have it in for me lately!
6. I should be knitting right now...and as always I'm behind on everything I need to be doing...maybe I should get off the computer!
7. I love cheetos...and lots of other junk food...which is why maybe those 15 lbs. are sticking around...that and I'm still breastfeeding so the increased size there isn't helping, oh and I love Christmas music...yes I know that's totally unrelated...that's just how I roll. LOL! =)

O.k. 7 random people...this will be tough b/c I don't know a ton of people who blog, but here goes...

Phew, that was a workout! Now I REALLY need to get to my knitting...and hope I don't lose my mind with these kids today...I'm taking 3 under 3 to a baby shower at 3...hmmm that's kinda interesting. ;)

Quidditch Round #2 Roar Roar Gryffindor!!!

1. What animal does the portrait in the Muggle Prime Minster’s office resemble?
a. Rat
b. Frog
c. Cat
d. Lion

2. What drink does Romilda Vane try to give Harry?
a. Gillywater
b. Butterbeer
c. Pumpkin Juice
d. Elf-Made Wine

3. What is the name of the person who heads the Holyhead Harpies?
a. Gwenog Smith
b. Gwenog Jones
c. Glen Jones
d. Glen Smith

4. How many ‘Exceeds Expectation’ grades does Harry receive in his O.W.L’s?
a. 6
b. 3
c. 5
d. 4

5. What is Professor Sughorn’s favorite candy?
a. Cockroach Clusters
b. Sherbet Lemon
c. Acid Pops
d. Crystallized Pineapple

6. What tattoo is Harry reported to have on his chest?
a. Mermaid
b. Blast Ended Skrewt
c. Hippogriff
d. Unicorn

7. What color robes do the staff at the Weasley’s shop wear?
a. Buttercup
b. Magenta
c. Royal Blue
d. Aqua

8. What is the man outside Flourish and Blotts selling?
a. Amulets
b. Cloaks
c. Wands
d. Hats

9. How much is the skull, which Hermione enquires about at Borgin and Burkes, worth?
a. 9 Galleons
b. 18 Galleons
c. 16 Galleons
d. 12 Galleons

10. What are Professor Slughorn’s initials?
a. H.F.G.
b. H.E.F.
c. H.A.L.
d. H.K.D.

Gryffindor Homework #2

Well, after getting over being sick, and trying to catch up on everything from when I was sick, I'm now having to turn in a late homework assignment...but I figure, better late than never!

1. At what are Hogwarts students allowed to swear loudly if smoovenu attenuclea attempts to strangle them? venomous tentacula

2. An animal form protector charm is a stuproan. patronus

3. Who is the potions master in HBP? Horace Slughorn

4. What is Aragog? An acromantula

5. Who is imperiused and cursed by a necklace in HBP? Katie Bell

6. What does Harry destroy in HBP? horcruxes

7. Draught of living death is comprised of ? (list the four components)
1. wormwood
3.valerian roots
4.a single sopophorous bean

8. What potion can reverse the draught of living death? dweliggnew

Bonus: Who is R. A. B.?
Regulas A. Black

Tuesday, October 14, 2008

My weekend in Hogsmeade...

Ugh! I was really looking forward to my weekend in fibre, and needles, maybe a little butter beer...but something, or maybe even someone aparently had other plans! I have no idea how it happened, or where it came from but I started out by visiting my usual fibre shop, Elaines Yarns, where I got some beautiful fibre for socks and the sweetest little baby outfit, along with some new fibre tools, and a few gifts. Then I took the littles home, and went to choir practice, then to muggle Church service where I sang. The day was nice and went well...then I woke up the next morning with horrible stomach pain that only grew worse as the day drug on. I was twisting and writhing in pain, and on and off feeling the need to vomit...I was seriously wondering if some how I'd been "crucio'd" without knowing it! I didn't eat anything unusual, and pretty much everyone around me ate the same things I did, so I really couldn't figure out what was causing it, and I hadn't been around any one sick either. By the end of the day I found myself feeling somewhat better though, and by the next morning I was almost completely recovered and just feeling tired...I don't think I'll be going back to Hogsmeade all to soon though!

Saturday, October 4, 2008

Gryffindor Homework #1

What yarn shop did Henry Longstaff shop at for yarn? Mrs. Mac's
Who is the HSKS6 SPEW coordinator? Cliodna Acromantula
Which Gryff student just returned from London? Lady Felula the Forgetful
Which Gryffindor has cats named after the muggle rock band, The Ramones? Dagmara Grindelwald
What is your favorite childhood television program (Magic or Muggle)? Saved by the Bell (muggle)
What is your favorite adult television program (Magic or Muggle)? House
Which travel destination did you last visit? Va Beach, VA
What was your last finished object (FO)? A Juliette Skirt/Soaker combo for my cousin's daughter
How many project(s) planned for holiday gifts? How many do you expect to actually finish and give? Planned: 10 Plan to finish and give: all
Who is the mother of Half Blood Prince? Eileen Prince
Which Weasley became engaged in Book 6 (Half Blood Prince)? Bill Weasley and Fleur Delacour
What is the result of a Sectumsempra curse? Taken from Harry Potter Wiki Sectumsempra is a Dark Magic curse invented by Severus Snape (under his alias of "The Half-Blood Prince") for use against his enemies, and it soon became one of his specialties. When uttered, its effect is the equivalent of an invisible sword, slashing the target repeatedly (as a sword would) and inflicting near-horrific scarring and internal bodily injuries, to the point they are disfigured or possibly killed. It works best on living targets (e.g. humans, animals, plants etc.), though has no noticeable effect on non-living or dead ones (e.g. rocks, walls, Inferi etc.)

The curse also has an anti-curse, also invented by Snape, but all that is known is that it is "an incantation that sounded almost like song", and sang in a "heavenly voice". The effects are immediate, as the worst of the curses' effects are removed near-instantly, and, combined with doses of Dittany, the scarring is reversed.

Who used a Bezoar to reverse poisoning? Harry on Ron.

Monday, September 29, 2008

First Quidditch Match

Well, we had our first Quidditch match this past Saturday, and while I believe Gryffindor played admirably, we were defeated by Slytherin House. I still had loads of fun though, it was my first Quidditch match ever, and I wasn't sure what to expect. Now that I'm not so intimidated I'm hoping I'll play better next time. I've made a few new friends at Hogwarts, and I'm really enjoying DA! (Shhh!) Things are really starting to take off in our Herbology class, so I'm hoping to learn some really useful things there! Well, I'm off to study for our first tests of the semester! Wish me luck! =)


Wednesday, September 24, 2008

Quidditch: Round 1

1. At the beginning of the book, Cornelius Fudge is talking to the Muggle Prime Minister. Which member of the Order of the Phoenix has recently been found dead?
a. Hestia Jones
b. Elphais Doge
c. Emmeline Vance correct answer
d. Dedalus Diggle

2. What animal does Bellatrix Lestrange kill when she and her sister, Narcissa, are going to see Professor Snape?
a. Owl
b. Fox correct answer
c. Rabbit
d. Cat

3. What time does Professor Dumbledore collect Harry from Privet Drive?
a. Midnight
b. 11 p.m. correct answer
c. Noon
d. 11 a.m.

4. What did Professor Sluhorn transform into when he was trying to hide from Harry and Professor Dumbledore?
a. An armchair correct answer
b. A bed
c. A table
d. A wardrobe

5. What grade did Harry get for Herbology?
a. E – Exceeds Expectation correct answer
b. P – Poor
c. O – Outstanding
d. A – Acceptable

6. Herbert Chorley, the Prime Minister’s Junior Minster, has been entertaining the public by impersonating which animal?
a. A hen
b. A duck correct answer
c. A lion
d. A squirrel

7. What is Professor Sprout’s first name?
a. Pimmy
b. Pomony
c. Pommy
d. Pomona correct answer

8. What is Dumbledore’s idea of ‘a few words’?
a. nitwit, odder, blubber rand tweak
b. nitwit, odder, bubblegum and tweak
c. nitwit, oddment, bubblegum and tweak
d. nitwit, oddment, blubber and tweak correct answer

9. Who is Marcus Belby’s famous uncle?
a. Bertie
b. Damocles correct answer
c. Tiberius
d. Savage

10. What is Snape’s mother’s name?
a. Helana Prince
b. Eileen Prince correct answer
c. Lily Prince
d. Elizabeth Prine

Post pictures to your blogs or link to the pictures from your blog post.

Narcissa, she's on the right



Professor Sprout

Professor Dumbledore

*Phew* That was a workout!

Monday, September 22, 2008

Sunday, September 14, 2008

Potter Points Quiz 1! Roar Roar Gryffindor!

Potter Name: Ellaynia Hagcliodna (used to be Penelope Hagcliodna, but I changed it because there were too many Penelopes. The council approved!)

Rav ID: mrs.haggie810

I am allergic to: a second dose of amoxicillan...and some weird thing yet to be determined that causes my hands to swell and seems to only occur in places with lots of dust or where there would be a lot of germs (i.e. the zoo, downtown las vegas, after touching a handrail, after touching paint dust...etc.)

Pets that I have: Some fish, a Beagle named Righty, and missing our beloved Great Dane, Quincy.

My favorite yarn: OMG...I don't know. There are just too many, and really it depends on what it's for I suppose. I love wool...I especially like BFL and Cestari, depending on the project. I think my all time favorite right now is Elliebellies "Crayon" colorway on BFL, but Dashing Dachs "Goldfish" is a VERY close second. For cheapy yarns I like Cascade 220, and for non-wool I like almost anything really soft...right now I'm liking Caron Simply Soft, b/c it's cheap, soft, and you get a lot for the price...oh and there are lot's of colors to choose from...I prefer natural fibers though. I'd love to try some sock yarn that has sea silk in it.

If you are a Ravenclaw, do you prefer the film colors or the book colors?
n/a, I'm a Gryffindor!!! =)

My favorite flavor: Hmm, that's kind of a strange question, not food, but flavor. I like sour flavors, I'm not very picky. I don't like artificial watermelon flavor. I like orange as long as it doesn't taste like Triaminic, and cherry as long as it doesn't taste like cough syrup. I love strawberry flavor. I like sour apple. I love hazelnut, and I like chocolate. I *heart* Ferror Rocher (I'm sure I butchered that spelling! lol!) Twix is my favorite candybar. I don't know...hopefully that answers the question.

My favorite holiday: Halloween, Thanksgiving or Christmas
CHRISTMAS All.The.Way.Baby!

I would like to receive a: (Sock kit, scarf kit or yarn dyeing kit)
Ooh...this is a toughy...I'd love to knit myself some socks, but a yarn dyeing kit would be sooo fun too...I'm going to say a sock kit though b/c if I got a dyeing kit I'm sure I would never get a chance to dye it between my kids, cheerleading, and the daycare!

List your favorite brand of needles or hooks, including size and length: I like Addi Turbo's, but I have mostly Susan Bates stuff right now.

Is there a brand that you are dying to try?: I'd really like to try knit-picks options, I like wood and nickel, so I'm not picky there. I like size US 7 24" and 47" or 60" in US size 5, 7, and 0 for Magic Loop, I also like fixed circulars in size US 5 and 7 12" or 16".

I've participated in HSKS: (How many times have you participated in HSKS swaps?)
Numero Uno! Oh yeah! I'm a First Year!!

Do you have a birthday during this swap? If so which day? nope! It's in March!

That's all for now! Roar Roar Gryffindor! =)

Thursday, September 4, 2008

My HSKS 6 name...

Penelope Hagcliodna

Penelope: Faithful; Faitful wife to Odysseus; Weaver

Hag: a wise old woman, a fairy or goddess, particularly one that only comes out in winter. Plus I like that it is part of my real last name! =)

Cliodna: Godess of the sea (I thought this was fitting too since I am a pisces!) and of the afterlife, and beauty. Some say the name means a 'shapely one of fair hair." Here is a link to a more detailed meaning...

So that's me...Kelley Hagemeister= Penelope Hagcliodna

Sorting hat says...

Which Hogwarts house will you be sorted into?

My wand...

Wood type: apple
Length: 11½ inches
Core: Gryffon Feather

get your own wand!

My name's hidden meaning...this is so true, it's scary...

What Kelley Means
You are a seeker of knowledge, and you have learned many things in your life.
You are also a keeper of knowledge - meaning you don't spill secrets or spread gossip.
People sometimes think you're snobby or aloof, but you're just too deep in thought to pay attention to them.

You are friendly, charming, and warm. You get along with almost everyone.
You work hard not to rock the boat. Your easy going attitude brings people together.
At times, you can be a little flaky and irresponsible. But for the important things, you pull it together.

You are relaxed, chill, and very likely to go with the flow.
You are light hearted and accepting. You don't get worked up easily.
Well adjusted and incredibly happy, many people wonder what your secret to life is.

You are a free spirit, and you resent anyone who tries to fence you in.
You are unpredictable, adventurous, and always a little surprising.
You may miss out by not settling down, but you're too busy having fun to care.

Tuesday, July 15, 2008

Our big guy is gone...

*Copied from my blog post on a different site.*

My poor, sweet, big, loveable, adorable, beautiful, gentle, loving, sweet, puppy Quincy is gone! We are going to miss him soo much! He seemed like he had lost some weight over the last week or so, but it seemed really bad yesterday, and today. He wouldn't eat. He could barely stand, but he would drink a lot of water, and he would eat treats out of our hand. I had to help him walk into the kitchen from outside today, and he almost collasped. I miss hugging him. Jason got home, and I had already called the emergency vet clinic who told us to bring him right in. After a long wait, and lots of testing, they concluded that he had severe, advanced, progressive, heart failure. His atria were only fibrulating, and his left (main) ventricle was severely enlarged. He also had a lot of fluid in his chest and abdominal cavity. We were faced with the option to seek agressive treatment, which would have involved taking him to MSU, or a special Canine Cardiologist tonight, a couple thousand dollars, and about a 25% chance of survival...which would still leave him with less than a year or so to live...and in order to even live that long he might have had to be hospitalized, and he would have had to get rid of all that excess fluid before he could even get better. It was the hardest decision to make...I swore I would never eutanize, and that we would seek treatment...but it just didn't seem like the right thing to do. He probably would have been miserable, and he might not have even gotten better, and the vet told us it would definitely be an uphill battle the entire time, the rest of his life, if we chose to treat him. He would have had to be seen tonight to even stand a small chance. I think this was what was best for him. It would have been selfish for us to *make* him live a low quality life just so we could have him here. I still feel so guilty though. I feel like we failed him. I'm going to miss him so much! He was just starting to really comfortable around the kids, and he loved them so much. It was so hard coming home without him, and seeing his empty crate, and knowing we will never see him again! I pray that he is with the Father, whole and healthy again, and waiting for us to meet him there. I'm angry if losing, basically, a family member wasn't enough...we had to pay a huge bill for taking him's just a slap in the face...your dog's gone...and oh yeah, you owe us a buttload of money too. Really though, the staff at the Emergency Animal Hospital were very nice, proffessional, and sympathetic. I thank God for that. This is so hard on Jason too...I feel so bad that he has to go to work tomorrow. I am so tired, but I can't sleep b/c I can't stop thinking about him! I have so much more to get out, but I have stuff to do, and I'm just not up to it right now. Rest In Peace buddy, you were greatly loved, and will be greatly missed.

Saturday, July 12, 2008


I should be sleeping, 'stead of keeping, these late hours, I've been keeping...

Just had to get this out really quick. I m/c my first child at 13 weeks, and it was very difficult on my husband and especially me. I think about that child from time to time, but recently, a mama on a forum that I frequent wanted help finding a place where she could leave a memorial for her child, and I went searching for the board that I left my memorial on 3 short years ago. This brought back such a rush of emotion, and the tears just started flowing. I continued to read about numerous lost angels, at varying ages, and just couldn't stop weeping. They also have the sweetest picture of an angel baby statue being held by an angel, and I couldn't help but think that it was the most perfect, beautiful baby, and it looked just like what my lost angel would have looked like. We think it was a girl, based on just our instints, but since we will never know for sure, we decided to call the baby Pip. Anyways, before I start rambling too bad, this whole scenario was weighing very heavily on my heart...and I was brushing my teeth, then rolling my wool to aid in drying, and asking God to just take this pain off my heart...and I thought to myself that it just saddened me so much to think that I would never see this child again...then it was like a light bulb came on...and I just know it was God, and it said..."WAIT, I WILL see this child again someday...when I enter the Kingdom of Heaven!" I can't explain exactly why, but that just lifted such a huge burden off my shoulders, and a heaviness off of my heart. God will always carry us if we let him. I just really felt the presence of God in this situation, and wanted to share. NOw that I massively overly tired, and more subject to panic attacks, it is off to bed for me, b/c I have a very long day ahead of me tomorrow! Thanks for listening. --K--

Monday, March 17, 2008

Reflections on "Making Children Mind without Losing Yours" by Dr. Kevin Leman: Part 1

Chapter 1
Notes: It's not just physical dangers, "kids are being held hostage by coarse T.V. shows, violent video games, and valueless schools." "Is it possible to bring up good children in such a crazy age?" The author says it's possible, but still scary. Many parents end up too afraid to do anything, for fear of being too lineant, too attached, too distant, or too demanding, and instead do nothing! We are al going to make mistakes, but we need to learn from them, not fear them. We can still raise good kids while making mistakes. "And we don't need the community to raise our kids, we don't need the schools to do it, we don't need the government telling us how, we don't even need churches to do our childrearing for us...we need parents to step up and do it." Everyone else needs to support parents in there efforts though. So that's the challenge...step up and be a parent. Make your family the most important and commit to it.

The time has come for reality discipline. "It's a consistent, decisive, and respectful way for parents to love and discipline their children." Discipline, not punish, love, but not smother in love. Lot's of parents are asking questions like...How do I really love my children? How do i respect my children? How can I hold them accountable for their actions? How do I get them to do what I think they ought to do, without resorting to physical or verbal violence? What about spanking? Is it necessary? How much? How often? Reality discipline will answer these questions and is inspired by scripture. It is based on Ephesians 6:1-4. The author believes that when we discipline children we do not damage their psyches, and I agree with him. Many children don't feel loved in their homes. "For discipline to work, the first thing that has to happen is that they child must feel genuinely loved."

The Seven Principles of Reality Discipline

1. Establish a healthy authority over your children.
"A family is not a democracy. The parents need to be in charge." Children should be valued family members, just not the complete center of attention.

2. Hold your children accountable for their actions.

3. Let reality be the teacher.
Goldfish as pets are good...if you don't feed them, they die. "Too many parents worry that failure will damage their childs self-esteem." Kids need to be able to fail, but then be love unconditionally when they do so.

4. Use action more than words.
The action of letting a child get away with something wins out every time. Hold them accountable and let them know their responsibilities affect others.

5. Stick to your guns, but don't shoot yourself in the foot.
Kids will try to whine to get you to change your mind, but don't give in! "Outlast them, and they'll learn it's pointless to whine." If you get the idea that you feel you need to change your mind though, you can...only God's authority is final.

6. Relationships come before rules.
These principles are not set in concrete. There are no hard and fast rules for raising children, like some people sometimes wish there were...sometimes you just have to go with your gut. "the goal is always the same: teaching your children to love others, to put others first, to be givers and not takers, and to realize that it makes a difference how they conduct themselves."

7. Live by your values.
"...for all to many kids today, cheating and lying are fine as long as you don't get caught-and then the response is merely a shrug and "Whatever." " Your children learn from watching you. The prerequisites for practicing reality discipline are 1. the desire to love as unconditionally as possible, and 2. you must be willing to take the time to practice it.

Make a difference in your childrens lives...don't fall for the modern doctrine that you are insignificant and don't matter, b/c you do and you can have a tremendous impact on your childrens lives. "Every rebellious act is a cry to Parent me! Treat me like I matter to you!" "Kids want guidelines. They need parameters." I love that he adressed that some soccer and t-ball leagues are no longer keeping score b/c then someone might lose, and that would damage their self-esteem. I think this is the biggest load of crap! If children aren't allowed to fail, they essentially aren't allowed to excel! You can't strive to be the best if you're always the best, and is there even any "best" is everyone's the best? Children need to learn that sometimes losing is a part of life, and that's o.k.


Q: What aspects of our modern world make it difficult for you to raise your children?

A: I think there are so many aspects that make it difficult. Cartoons that set poor examples, use toliet humor, and are offensive. One of the biggest one's for me is other peoples children who behave pooryly, who my two year old learns from . I think that an overall busier schedule contributes as well. Pushing our children to excel earlier and earlier is also a problem...we are so focused on getting our 4 year olds to be computer literate that we're not making sure that they know how to play nice, share, and use there manners! Really, it's o.k. if they don't use a computer or spell perfect until second grade!

I skipped the next queestion b/c i didn't think any of them were hard to understand.


* Talk through the principles of reality discipline with your spouse. Decide together whether you'll put these principles into practice or not. Or do you want to read the rest of the book to see how they work?

Jason and I think this approach sounds good, so I will continue to read the book and share the key points with Jason.

I hope that these reviews can help you if you as well, if you don't have access to the book, or maybe it will even inspire you to go get it...either from your library or from the store! =)

Reflections on "How Did I Get So Busy" by Valerie Burton: Part 1

Faith, Family and Friends form the foundation of fulfillment. What a powerful statement. This book is all about managing our time better so that we are not so "busy" and we have time for the important things in life. It helps teach you to still do the things you want to do, but feel fulfilled, satisfied and well rested instead of busy all of the time. So, Faith, Family, and Friends form the foundation of fulfillment was just a really powerful statement to me. One I want to remember for a long time. There is a pyramid you can use...starting at the bottom with the largest section and moving upward, the sections are...Faith, Family, and Friendships...Self-care...Purposeful Work...Financial Health...Joy. I'm supposed to jot down the area's where I feel overwhelmed, overloaded, and/or overdriven, so here goes...
*Daycare Paperwork
*The Budget
*Trying to Exercise
Then I am supposed to imagine what it would be like if I didn't feel this way...conceiving change, is the first step to birthing change. O.k., so while I was trying to imagine the way this would feel I fell asleep, but I'm back now, and I think it would just be a really calm, content, laid back feeling. Then I am supposed to answer this question in my journal...
Q: What has lead you to your current state of busyness? At the end of this 28 day journey what do you want to be different about your life?

A: I, much like the author, have been a busy body since friends can vouch for me on that. I rarely was not involved in at least two or three things at once, and I loved all the stuff I was involved in...for me, it was more to get out of the house I think. Although I LOVED dance and did it three days a week b/c of it! As I got older, I just kept it going, and when I graduated it was the same story...I took more than full-time college credits, worked over-time whenever I could, coached youth soccer, coached cheerleading...the list goes on...and I am starting to get burnt out! I can't do everything and raise two (or more maybe down the road) children and run a household, run multiple businesses and still do "everything," like I think I sometimes can. At the end of the 28 days I would like to feel more organized, less stressed, like I have time for the things I enjoy to do, time to exercise, time to just relax, and like I have accomplished something everyday.

"One-Minute Meditation: Something better is possible and will unfold over the next 28 days." These meditations are part of the book...join with me in doing them if you'd like to! =)

Thursday, February 21, 2008


My name is Kelley, I am almost 24 years old. I am married to my highschool sweetheart, who also just turned 24. We have been married for almost 3 years now, and we've been together for a little over 7 years. We have two beautiful children, Coby, who is almost 2, and Caitlyn who is just 7 weeks! We've had some ups and downs, and lots of interesting things happen, so I figure this blog will be a way to keep track of it all. My WAHM businesses, raising our children, church happenings and reflections, and awareness for other things that I am passionate about. I hope to sort of be a spokesperson for topics that I'd like to raise awareness about, such as Shaken Baby Syndrome, Cystic Fibrosis, Cerebral Palsy, Breast Cancer, Ovarian Cancer, Premature Birth, Pre-term Labor, Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, Endometiosis and other important topics as I come across them and find interest in them. I also hope that this blog may help some as a possible pregnancy and breastfeeding resource. I am also hoping to someday break into the music industry as a singer and possibly song writer, so hopefully this blog will chronicle that journey as well. There will probably be some parenting tips, as I read lots of books, and there may be testimonies of God as well, or reflections on church sermons, although I do not plan for this blog to be "preachy." Well, I guess that's about it, Happy Reading, and I guess I should get crackin!!